Helping a Friend

How to help a Friend Who Has Been Sexually Abused
  • Believe your friend. Many people who have been sexually abused fear that no one will believe them or that their experience will be trivialized.

  • Let your friend be in control of the situation, i.e., deciding who is informed of the incident. Trust and control over your friend's life has been disturbed. She/He needs to regain control and needs to be able to trust you. Respect confidentiality.

  • Reassure your friend that she/he is not to blame.

  • Let your friend know you care. This may be the first time your friend has talked about the abuse.

  • Inform your friend about the resource list in this brochure.

  • Get help for yourself. You may feel the need to talk with someone about your own feelings and concerns.