Hance Family Foundation Offers "Beautiful Me" Workshop at St. John's

October 18, 2012

The Hance Family Foundation offered the inspiring "Beautiful Me—the Emma, Alyson and Kate Hance Project" on Monday, October 1 and Tuesday, October 16 to women throughout campus, including all Panhellenic and ALFSA sororities, women student athletes and the general female student body.

Emma, Alyson and Kate were three young girls who were tragically killed (along with their aunt and cousin, as well as those in the other car) on the Taconic Parkway when their minivan drove into oncoming traffic in July 2009. The mission of "Beautiful Me" is to extend the knowledge and understanding that Emma, Alyson and Kate possessed —being comfortable with who you are makes you a better sister, daughter, friend and person.

As a unique and special component of the program, we were privileged to have Warren Hance, father of Emma, Alyson and Kate, speak to all who attended. As he reflected on his own personal tragedy, he commented that his goal in life was no longer about "surviving, but about living" — living a life of purpose.

As he spoke, his powerful message challenged St. John's women to be active participants in the shaping of their own stories. He spoke of how, although, the past may have shaped an individual, the future is his or hers to create — and in doing so, his daughters' memories will always live on.

"Beautiful Me" was a two-hour workshop for women taught by educators and social workers who have been trained directly through the Hance Family Foundation. Our St. John's students were engaged in hands-on activities and thoughtful reflections aimed to increase self-esteem, improve body awareness, develop coping skills and improve problem-solving skills.

The program offered students many opportunities to engage in conversation. One participant reflected, "There are not many times that I am told to say 'I am beautiful.' Our group leader made us say it with our eyes open, straight at her. Wow — it really made me so much more confident in believing it."

For more information, please visit hancefamilyfoundation.org.